So-called “ Friends “

The important thing about college life is friends / friendship . College friendship is always touted to be the best and long-lasting one . You may think differently but I am just talking about the majority here . There is always a debate about which friends are better ? or which life you enjoyed the most ? - college or school . Since the introduction of questions in facebook , this topic has been running in the news feed  . But , I believe school or college doesnt have anything special , I mean they are not very different . Both offers the same - Knowledge and friendship . It is only the people who differ . So the definition of friendship differs with them . Expecting the same kinda thing from everyone is a big mistake .

True friendship is a different thing and im not going to talk about it here .

Like any relationship  , the first level of friendship is sugar-coated . Impressions get you friends and you either bond with or split , later when your opinion differs . A class looks and may really seem together as one but soon comes a split , and you can see gangs formed , each one behaving In their own way . These gangs are formed due to similar tastes or by some kinda blind driving force . You hang out with them , just because you started doing that with them and you begin to think that others are some sort of weirdos . If a guy hates someone , the gang follows that and no matter what , the gang supports them blindly . Soon , your entire college life will begin to move around your gang , happiness and sorrow all within the gang . Any step taken to glue these gangs together will always result in chaos . I have seen a few good-willed people getting hurt in taking such attempts .

Some be a part of the gang not knowing that they are being ignored and some gangs have splits in them . Some thin line keeps them together which is definitely not friendship .


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I have seen most of those relying on their gang , turn to ruins . It is not only their behaviour but their perceptions  / thinking also changes . The one thing these so called friendly gang members shouldnt do , is talk about a girl or a boy . One statement – she is beautiful or he/she is very kind or good , is enough . All that the gang wants is fun , and they don’t even care if its at the expense of someone getting hurt . They feed you with their perceptions and leave you in a confused state . Soon they enjoy developing it to crush and further more . They enjoy every moment of it . And you think they truly care about you . I think , I can say that in most cases love develops because of friends , directly or indirectly . And finally , when their enjoyment comes to an end leaving a person in torn apart , they find someone , someone who really cared , to blame on wearing the We are your true friends mask and you blindly believe them .This so called gang , never stays intact for a long time . One with clear insight can easily identify the differences in them , the misunderstandings or the fights between them , even if they do well to hide it from others . You must have seen friends (so-called) fighting together . They raise their voices , sometimes their hands for petty issues . And some have such big head , to apologize even to their friends .

There are few other gangs which doesn’t really care what happens to others or what might happen . They never even think about helping the weak . Not in terms of money , but with true good-will for his/her future . They eat together , they go out to movies together , they play together and they just leave them to rot , while fun is all around them . Leeches can be easily spotted by anyone out of the gang . They suck you completely and leave you when things go sour .

Having talked about love and fights , they next thing these gangs are formed is for fame . One kind , mocks and hurts everyone they see , and stand over them and enjoy being feared or called bullies . The next thing stick out for serious fame . The very clever , teacher – favorite , conspirators who always wear an artificial smile on them to hide their inner dirt .

All these poor people stick together until their job is done or until they find a better gang to hang out with .They are two-faced, liars and thieves . If you call them out on their dealings , understanding what they really are they will act hurt, so you begin to trust them and they again throw you in the dirt.Im sure you might have seen these kinds . You may find me cynical , but all this is true .

People who are a part of every gang – I mean the good guys – are rare to find and they are the ones who really care and get hurt for that too . Im glad i have earned some true friends , both from school and college .