A modern dictionary defines Impression as a strong effect produced on the intellect, feelings,conscience, etc. or perception upon the mind - sensation. I believe we can say its kind of a pre-judgment .Impressions , are the ones that get us friends and foes and plays a role in initiating and breaking relationships. The one that is talked about a lot and lives in our history and in future as proverbs,quotes and as stories . First impression is the best impression , A good impression is hard to earn and so on .
The moment we look at someone , we keep them in a balance , the one that we have designed for ourselves and which many of us deny to possess . Friendship begins with impression , or any relationship for that matter . No one can deny that . When we enter a new place , do we start talking with anyone ?(in a way to seek friendship) ,just anyone ? Some telepathic connection driving us towards them ?. No ,We don’t . We talk to the one that appeals the most . Ofcourse , it is not only the appearance , it is also about how they talk or behave . You like his manner , you befriend him .This is why a few become friends at the very first meeting and others become the Hi-Bye kinda guy . But then , this is all about the beginning . They are a start-off thing but plays a great deal more in maintaining one .
Didn’t you have a teacher in school , who always had a grudge against you ? . Always complaining and finding fault with you . The one who once gave you nightmares . This happens even in college , where Impression is accompanied by , Partiality . And this continues , almost in all walks of our life . Why do we try to present ourselves well , when meeting someone special ? . Isn’t it all for or about , Impression ?
When u have placed someone in The Good Guys list , It is hard to move that name from it . No matter what you hear of them , you seek proofs and even with them , we will find it hard to strike that name off . But this is just the other way around when its about “ The Bad Guy “ . You get one news which might give a perception , that he is wrong , you jump and your lips curl up wolfishly and your mind starts shouting “I Knew , I knew !!”, knowing that you have been right to put him there and then you bring him to the top (Worse). We never even try to understand things clearly . All that our mind seeks , is something to prove that we are right .
This is mostly because of Mr.Impression , guiding us in our way to put people in places . HE is a big crook , capable of deceiving and showing us what he wants us to see . We seek a quick analysis and HE helps us . Its quite a difficult thing to get rid of him . Only a few succeed .
There a many of us who claim that we don’t judge people when we talk or hear about them , be it good or bad . The thing is , we actually don’t . This is because , we have a characterization , a mini judgment , that we have already written about them , which decides on how we take a person ,in times that demands our opinion .
At the end , its like looking yourself in a mirror . The reflection gives you back , what you give it . You smile , it smiles . You stare at it , it does the same in return . The whole world is just the same . You get back what you give , may be not instantly but eventually . You mark someone as bad and you are most likely to get only the bad from him .
Do you accept that Impression – is kind of a pre-judgment ??
yes it is indeed complicated. But the one thing that causes pre-judgment is the personal ego and I strongly believe that it it necessary. Bad guys list i don't know. But good guys list is necessary. Our parents keep us in the good guys list. Only that has brought us till here. To sum up though a pre-judgement (kinda) it is necessary.
ReplyDeleteif u define ego - as just a state of mind , and nothin bad ..i can accept it .
ReplyDeleteIf not the bad - guy list , you have something like the Hi-bye ones or sumthin like that ..which keeps u away frm them
I know the blog entry that I am sharing here isn't the best related to this post, but felt that it is somewhat which can be shared.
ReplyDeleteThe way you have felt about Impressions, I felt something about Expression of Feelings. Here is the link which you must read.
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truely very nise one i like it
ReplyDeleteThank u ..Daniel
ReplyDeleteIt goes hand in hand but yes we seriously need to do something about the impression thing in Indian education systems..I have seen many friends suffer because of this. I think we all are a bit judgemental. It's the way we work maybe. About looking at your reflection...Well, what you see is what you get!
ReplyDeleterealy a good one hari... the same i think .. if we go with pre- judgement then the tru face of a person will vanish completely.. and the reality will be missing... and if comes from ur instinct surely the pre judgemnt wont be wrong.. but its very rare case only.. 90% of the case imression leads to mis understading... i hope so...
ReplyDeleterealy a good one hari... the same i think .. if we go with pre- judgement then the tru face of a person will vanish completely.. and the reality will be missing... and if comes from ur instinct surely the pre judgemnt wont be wrong.. but its very rare case only.. 90% of the case imression leads to mis understading... i hope so...
ReplyDeletebut do u think u ll have time to manage if u ve such a large lot of friends? neva. so its better the list is limited. and remember, monkeys are social. not like lacs of them living amicably. just 10-20 per group. thats the level of amicability monkeys have. thts exactly wat can be expected out of us too
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